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May 16, 2010

Apparently I’m Not The Only One…

Who can see Biracial Tiffany’s raison d’etre. Like all groups, biracial people are not monolithic. However, the rhetoric that dominates the multiracial movement would have you believe that most are whiny racists. Losangelista blogged about two biracials doing too much-trying too hard-to identify in a way that she found disingenuous. It was refreshing to come across a blogger that seems to have it figured out. Here is an excerpt from her post:

...But unlike Scotty, who felt on his empty gun holster at the mere insinuation that he was anything other than black, Tiffany Jones seems to be bending over backwards in her desire to say “I’m not black.”

This may not have been her intent but while watching Tiffany’s film, underneath her assertions that she’s “not black” or “just black”, I heard someone saying, “I don’t want to be black because blackness is inferior.”

In my own experience as someone with one white parent and one black parent, I’ve met a few other biracial folks who act like they’ve been shortchanged by life because they were given a black mom or dad instead of two white parents. You get the sense that they want to say they’re biracial, not necessarily because they want to acknowledge all aspects of who they are ethnically or racially, but, because they are, deep down, ashamed of their blackness and wish there was some way they could make it go away.

Tiffany’s vibe took me back to the days when I’d hear other biracial girls telling girls with two black parents that they were better than them: better hair, better looking, smarter, less black. It took me back to why folks would meet me and say, “I thought you’d think you’re all that just because you’re mixed.”

Yes, Tiffany can be as proud of her whiteness as she wants to be, but just as Scotty had to say over and over that he was “black”, Tiffany announcing over and over that she’s white lacks authenticity to me. To me, it’s all about intent. Why do you want to be white? And if Tiffany can finally get the world to say, “Yes, honey, you’re white!” will she be happier and more comfortable with herself?

I also think there’s a difference between a healthy pride and an inherent sense of superiority. I am very very proud of being half Irish. If someone asked me to say I’m not part Irish, I’d probably draw a big shamrock on my face right in front of them. However, that pride does not and never will supersede the affection and downright admiration I have for my black ancestry.

I must say, Tiffany gives the impression that her mother wasn’t much of a winner. And if I ever get around to posting about Debra J. Dickerson’s “gift” to her biracial children, you’ll come to find that many Black women in interracial relationships are just as incompetent at dealing with race in their mixed race families as their white counterparts. In fact, this woman might be Tiffany’s mom.

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9 Comments »

  1. I dont know if I have brought this up before but I have watched all of Tiff videos and I do remember one where she talked about her mother. She said her mother would “warn” her that black girls would be jealous/dislike her because of her hair.

    Also there was another video where she talked about how her and her mother were riding in a car with her mothers boss when he yelled Nigger at some people that cut him off. Needless to say her mother didnt address the boss and pretended like nothing derogatory was said. Her mother’s defense was she was afraid they would be kicked out of the car if she spoke up.

    SAD.

    Comment by Y — May 16, 2010 @ 9:17 pm | Reply

  2. Y:

    Wow. I remember the first comment about the hair, but I definitely don’t remember the second one. That. Is. Deep. And I talk about the fact that many biracial people seem to have a difficult time discussing White people or Whiteness is a critical way, and I guess that is a perfect example of where it starts. Sad indeed!

    Comment by tragicmulattos — May 16, 2010 @ 10:51 pm | Reply

  3. “And if I ever get around to posting about Debra J. Dickerson’s “gift” to her biracial children, you’ll come to find that many Black women in interracial relationships are just as incompetent at dealing with race in their mixed race families as their white counterparts.”

    I’m a black woman in an interracial relationship (although I don’t have children yet). I’d like to think I’m competent in dealing with racial issues. I certainly wouldn’t compare myself to the average white woman in an interracial relationship when it comes to race — I’m much more racially conscious.

    Comment by Natasha W — May 17, 2010 @ 9:59 pm | Reply

    • You can’t be vary ‘racially conscious’ if you’re in an interracial relationship. I think you are confusing racially aware with consciouness. The two are compleately different. If you really were conscious you would know this.

      Comment by danar — February 17, 2011 @ 7:06 am | Reply

  4. Hello Natasha,

    Generally I’ve always believed that Black women are more racially conscious and therefore more likely to raise children with realistic ideas about race. For the most part I still believe this is true, just not as much as I believed it before. Just because a person is racially conscious doesn’t mean they’re competent. I believe biracial Tiffany’s mom was conscious of race-she was probably *obsessed* with it. But the ideals she imparted on her child were pathetic and she sounds like a coward. She seemed to have serious inferiority complexes, so why wouldn’t her child grow up with some offshoot of her mother’s racial issues?

    Comment by tragicmulattos — May 21, 2010 @ 2:02 am | Reply

  5. ^I agree. When she said her mother made that remark about hair, my eyebrow raised. But I don’t think it applies to all black women in interracial relationships.

    Comment by Natasha W — May 25, 2010 @ 5:56 pm | Reply

  6. I am a biracial male doesn’t want to be white or black. I can’t stand pale white skin or nappy hair. The girls that I have dated have, for the last 10 years have been latino. They are all creamy to light brown in complexion. They all look like the type of person that with a child it will have the best chances of looking like me. Do you get it, there is more than just black and white!

    Comment by lady islesworth — June 10, 2012 @ 6:07 pm | Reply


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