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November 26, 2009

Because Black Women MUST Be Jealous of You

Sara Baartman

I am really fascinated by how much of a commodity beauty is in our society. This is doubly true for women, whom are (across the racial board) judged more harshly for their appearance than their male counterparts. When you consider the intersection of race and beauty, we arrive at some very sticky stuff. In case you haven’t guessed, the European aesthetic is the standard by which all women are judged.

Black women are arguably physically the most distinct from the European phenotype. Lips, nose, hair, and typical body shapes are sometimes SO distinct, they become objects of fascination/intrigue rather than simply being body parts. More questions about that? Google the tragic story of “Sartji Baartman”.

Despite what seems to be an ongoing assault on the image and self-esteem of women of predominantly African descent, studies show Black women have equal or higher self-esteem than their White counterparts. Yes, despite the overuse of racially ambiguous women portraying Black women in the media, despite being bombarded with images of White femininity, Black women have managed to emerge (at the very least) no more emotionally scarred than those for whom the beauty standards are set. Society’s response to our confidence? Media images of morbidly obese sassy Black women with bad attitudes and too much self esteem (Norbit). After all, how dare a Black woman (and how DOUBLE DARE a fat woman) deem herself worthy if Whites don’t? I guess we can’t win for losing.

Don’t get me wrong, Black women in the U.S seem to display a mixture of concession and resistance to anti-Black beauty indoctrination. Very few would approve of skin bleaching, but most do not critically question the practice of hair straightening (though this is gradually changing). It’s even harder to challenge the hair-straightening process because in the last century, the process of getting hair done has also provided an actual physical space for Black female discourse (“girl talk”). Be it the kitchen or the salon, the “hair space” can make a person feel “like a ice cube in a oven” if you aren’t a member of that “sorority”. Long wait times, questionable prices, and being unsure of what the hell you’ll look like when you leave can be really stressful. Add to that list the cheeky regulars who believe you’ve forfeited your right to “face” when you enter their space. As a girl who was never allowed to do the bimonthly salon thing, I know exactly how this feels. Plenty of Black women do too. Let’s see how Youtube’s Tiffdjones interprets this phenomenon:

Now, I’m well aware of the issues that exist between lighter and darker skinned Black women. I’m also aware of the ongoing desire for some Black women to achieve Eurocentric hair aesthetics (straight, long, etc). I DO find it interesting that her immediate interpretation  of that experience was that all of those women MUST be jealous of her. Because after all, any Black woman who isn’t absolutely honored to be in the presence of a mulatto and absolutely hell-bent on making her comfortable must be harboring some deep-seeded jealousy. While watching her video I thought back to the times I’ve been laughed at while getting my hair done, the time I was charged extra for the “extra time” because she “didn’t realize how much was there”, and the time I was flat out DENIED service by the infamous Dominicans (funny how they don’t even need names, lol) after I went natural a few years ago. I think about those experiences, sometimes hurtful, sometimes too funny and stupid to be hurtful, and I wonder since I’m not biracial, what’s my excuse?

Another thing I thought about, was the privilege Blacks often give biracials in Black (and sometimes White) contexts. This is more often communicated to biracial women by Black men, so it’s no surprise that a biracial woman in a Black female context was treated (at worse) with a little hazing, or (at best) like any other random girl. Growing up, it was pretty common knowledge that the default pretty girl would always be mixed (this would later be replaced by mixed and/or had an amazing body). However, when I went to a nearly entirely White high school I found that this simply didn’t happen in White environments. In fact, for a particular biracial girl, the combination of red hair, a slightly tighter than average curl pattern, and an affinity for Bob Marley shirts made me realize that it could be downright hard. I finally decided to ask a male student what was so funny about her. His reply was, “you don’t see Bozo’s sister?”

In reflecting on the many times I’ve observed biracials in Black and White contexts, I come to the same conclusions; overly regarded in one environment, nearly invisible in another. This is mainly applicable to the heterosexual contexts I’ve observed. This leads me to another hypothetical conclusion about Tiffdjones’ video:

If the women making her uncomfortable were White, she wouldn’t have the gall or the audacity to assume they were jealous of her. I would put my life on it. I’ve witnessed it before, Biracial women in White female groups often resign themselves to “supporting actress” roles, even if they are attractive enough to be the center of attention. They don’t conceptualize themselves as threats to the social value of White women (certainly not in the eyes of White men), so any tension that arises between a biracial woman and a White woman is likely interpreted as an individual act of meanness rather than some racially loaded act of biracial envy. The blogger has mentioned that her mother (who is Black) discouraged her from trusting Black women with he hair, and this may very well be an example of how the minority parents of biracial identified children often impart their racial insecurities on their children, and these insecurities become a part of their racial identity (as with all racial identities). I will discuss this in more detail later. It pokes a critical whole in the “best of both worlds” argument, or the argument that Biracialism is a fundamental representation of racial progressiveness. Racial progress encourages you to stereotype the very group to which your mother belongs…and your mother encourages this as well???

I guess what I’m asking is…is it really their inferiority complex or your superiority complex??? I think someone who has been raised to be distrustful/wary of a certain group will likely interpret anything they do with that predisposed expectation.

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24 Comments »

  1. It appears that is easier to to blame others for feelings of inferiority especially if they are perceived as ‘easy targets’. Instead, they should be looking at the society that set these ground rules and redirecting their anger towards it. Correct me if I am wrong, but they may see it as being safer to blame other blacks instead of whites who got the ball rolling in the first place.

    Comment by Herneith — January 28, 2010 @ 4:17 am | Reply

  2. I have watched Tiff Jones’ entire series and I must say although the videos are interesting and refreshing this one about hair did disturb me, especially her mother’s comments. Im sure one of the reasons she was treated “poorly” at the salon had to do with her own attitude. Is it too far-fetched to assume her mistrust of black females led her to come into the salon with her guard up, causing her to emit an off putting attitude.

    I have witnessed these things with my own eyes before. Biracial women mean-mugging and expecting the worst out of black women, to only turn around and cry jealousy when black women stay out of their way and dont engage with them. I have also witnessed biracial women playing down their own beauty and personality as to not outshine their white females friends. Its unfortunate that we cannot see each other as people and get past racial hang-ups.

    Comment by Y — April 1, 2010 @ 4:26 pm | Reply

    • I think that many white women are jealous of black and biracial women, but I have never seen a biracial person down play their own beauty to not outshine a female white female. And how could you do that anyway? Down play beauty, beauty is an outside thing that people look at, judge and deem whether or not you attract them or not. I have seen many biracial women and black women stand firm against whites and be themselves. And being black woman with many white friends, I can also they many blacks don’t come around white people or hang out with them. Its almost as if they are scared or think they are not welcome. In a group of 5, I am usually the only black person. Not because whites only let one black person but many blacks don’t talk to whites or befriend them.

      Comment by mia — June 24, 2010 @ 5:42 pm | Reply

      • Hey Mia,

        You’re posing a lot of good questions. I agree, beauty is *largely* evaluated by external qualities. However, it is VERY possible to downplay (or play up) your beauty-and that is through the projection (or lack of projection) of confidence and self assurance. I am a consummate people watcher, and if there is one thing women underestimate-it is the power of nonverbal communication. In general, young mulatto women in Black environments are often overly affirmed, and in White environments they are often under affirmed-especially if they don’t look White. Biracial Tiffany actually interviewed a few girls who stated this much about their experiences in dating while going to White schools. When your environment tells you you’re beautiful (or at least privileged), you believe it and you ACT like it (usually unconsciously). That’s where the nonverbal stuff comes in. You project power because you believe people will affirm your position. I watch posture, eye contact, body movement- you would be surprised how a woman’s aura changes when *she believes* the men in that environment value her most. I have seen this play out time and time again. Disclaimer: I am aware this blog is heteronormative. Unfortunately I do not have much experience with LGBTQ culture.

        When it comes to interracial friendships, things get complicated. The vast majority of people have intimate friendships with people of the same “salient identity” (be it race, religion, etc.). So while you may have a group of White girlfriends, the average White girl and the average Black girl in America probably have close friends who mostly look like them. It’s not just fear, I think it’s tied to assumptions about interest and the ability for women of other identities to understand you. I believe this is changing though. Nonetheless, I doubt Black women actively avoid White women. But you are right, they may think they are not welcomed.

        Comment by tragicmulattos — June 24, 2010 @ 6:07 pm

      • TM, you nailed it. The same women who are bold when dealing with a group they expect deference from will turn to shrinking violets when moving in whiter circles. I have seen it, and Im glad you see my point of view.

        Comment by Y — June 14, 2011 @ 6:34 am

  3. Biracials have convinced themselves that they are the epitome of perfection, and any Black person who does not revere and defer to them is “jealous”…case closed. I also believe those with Black mothers like Tiff Jones will be relegated to a different caste since white mothers/Black fathers are the preferred combination.

    Comment by Odile — June 23, 2010 @ 5:07 pm | Reply

  4. Ah! Does anyone realize that with these comments you are proving this girl right about darker skinned women? In your comments, many of you come off as a bit bitter and jealous. I am a darker skinned black girl and I don’t want that title. I agree that it is an assumption that this girl is jumping at when she says that they are all just jealous, because it isn’t always like that still it most of the time is. But from the view of a darker skinned girl raised around blacks and whites and talk what many blacks call “white” or “proper”, I say black people can be mean to people, who they think are “white-washed” or closer to white people than black people. I have been made fun of, spit at, gotten into fights, hour long arguments with other black people over the way I talk, the way I dress, even the music I listen to. So I can say that I understand her defense and not being comfortable around black people because I am now this way, whenever I am around black people I feel the need to be blacker than everyone else in the room, so I won’t be called out on or made fun of. And that is hiding who I really am in a way. But its something I feel I have to do. Now I don’t agree with this girl over them being jealous, I think black people are always on guard with biracial people and other blacks in being white or them thinking they are better than them, so when they sense that they attack, trying to tear this person to sheds.
    What I question though is how come you guys are all over this girl for preferring whites over blacks when some whites prefer blacks over whites? What about “ghetto” white boys or “snow bunnies” who prefer black people. No one is having a discussion on them preferring blacks. Also this girl is biracial and she is half white so why is it a crime for her to hang out with her other half and like it better. Obama is census marked “black” man with a black wife, who is always around white people.
    P.S. I don’t think all black women are jealous of light skinned people or biracial people I just think that some are though, and that mother is right in saying don’t trust everyone with your hair but I would never say don’t trust blacks because a white woman can see tiff with her longer and better than hers and mess that stuff up same as a black girl.

    Comment by mia — June 24, 2010 @ 5:35 pm | Reply

    • How are we “all over this girl”? I’m pointing out an assumption in her argument that is likely based on the unfortunate way she was raised. She came into the salon, saw Black women who weren’t kissing her ass, and assumed they hated her BECAUSE she’s mixed (something propagated by her mother). And I would bet if a bunch of White women were snotty to her, she wouldn’t think for a moment that they were *jealous*. I’ve been in similar uncomfortable situations with Black (and White women), I generally don’t jump to that conclusion. It’s unfortunate that you, a dark skinned woman, have internalized the idea that anyone who criticizes that behavior must be jealous.

      Also, if you feel the need to change who you are to be around the Black people you know, you need to find new Black friends. I guarantee you-you are not the only Black person who talks the way you do or likes the music you like. This argument from “alternative” Blacks is getting really old, especially since so many young Black people are living/working in mixed urban environments (NYC, DC, LA, etc.). It’s been over a decade since I’ve purchased a hip hop album, and I have always used standard American English (for the most part) and I still manage to maintain friendships and relationships across racial lines. It is possible. And if you can’t find Black people with your interests (or with respect for your interests) you should find other friends who do. But please retire the “I’m the only Black person in the WORLD like me” rhetoric-it’s played. I spent many of my formative years in an environment akin to Laguna Beach (the MTV show), and I still manage to enjoy the company of many different types of people.

      Welcome to the site!

      Comment by tragicmulattos — June 24, 2010 @ 5:52 pm | Reply

  5. Sorry, but this does sound pretty hateful.

    Why do you dislike Tiffany so much? You don’t know her. It sounds like you have a problem with biracial people. This entire blog seems to bash people of mixed race. What have we done to you?

    You seem like an intelligent person, but I wonder what compels you to look down on biracial people. Tiffany wasn’t saying that she is better than anyone. She simply stated that some Black people are unkind to her. Some Black women are jealous of girls with long hair and light skin…it’s a fact.

    Like you said, European beauty ideals have a lot to do with that. Slavery and racism influenced that. But she wasn’t saying “look at me, I’m better and prettier”. She was describing how uncomfortable it is to be a biracial woman and have people react in certain ways. She didn’t expect anyone to kiss her ass, as you so eloquently stated. She was just taken aback by the attitudes of the women around her.

    As a young girl, I would visit beauty shops and the Black stylists wanted to cut my waist-length hair for no apparent reason. These were grown women. Now you might not view that as jealousy, but there is definitely some malicious intent behind it.

    Mia is right…you are all over Tiffany. I don’t believe Mia internalized anything. She doesn’t have to agree with you just because she is dark-skinned. She simply pointed out the fact that you are picking on somebody you don’t even know and making assumptions. We all have different experiences in life. Tiffany shared hers. You shared your opinions, which you are entitled to. But why all the misplaced hostility?

    As to the Dominicans not wanting to do your hair…most Dominican salons do not work with natural hair. This is partly because of prejudice in some instances, although many Dominicans are of African descent. It is also because many of them only specialize in chemical services like relaxers, so they are at a loss when it comes to dealing with natural hair. It isn’t their forte. Some Dominican women are not trained to deal with their own kinky textures. I live in South Florida and there are almost no Dominican salons that work with natural textured hair. Actually, there seem to be few salons that have knowledge of how to care for natural hair in general. Hair straightening is still widely practiced by the majority of people, despite the natural hair movement. I guess it comes down to brainwashing.

    Anyway, I apologize for my comment being so long. But I had a lot to say. This makes me really sad. Some biracial people act the way you described, but I don’t believe that was Tiffany’s intent. Please stop with the stereotypes. We’re not all bad people. We’re not all confused and tragic.

    Comment by Not A Tragic Mulatto — May 5, 2011 @ 12:02 am | Reply

    • Your reasons for your opinion are your own. But the fact that “some Black women are jealous of girls with long hair and light skin” is no less true than the fact that some biracial women have superiority complexes around black women (that they would NEVER show towards a white woman), and assume any act that isn’t explicit adoration and kindness is jealousy. Never mind the fact that, unfortunately, some Black women are very insular and unfriendly in general-especially to other black women. The assumption of jealously alone implies that YOU believe they have something to be jealous of and cannot possibly interact with you without perceiving you to be the superior person. I don’t blame you or Tiffany completely. Too many black people have allowed this stupidity to go unchecked. Too many black people have allowed a certain type of biracial woman-no matter how unattractive, or fat, or dumb, or unduly stuck up or whatever-to believe that you are far more extraordinary than you are. What’s funny is, people of other races are starting to notice this phenomenon too. So now, when someone doesn’t worship you by virtue of your partial white genes, you are perplexed.

      YOU also give an example of the superiority complex rhetoric given Tiffany’s story in your own story. Black hair salons are notorious for being scissor happy and chemical happy. This is mostly done to create customers who are DEPENDENT on their service. They need you to come back, and they want the job to be easy. Who wants to deal with 3 feet of curly hair? It takes a lot more time for not much more money. But your pseudo-white reasoning forces you to find malice in every act by Black women, so it MUST be jealousy. It’s a very subtle sort of contempt that forces you to feel threatened or nasty towards them if they display behavior or attitudes that don’t give you the impression that they admire you. Did your hair dressers (because this happened 20 times, lol) SAY anything that made you think, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that she was jealous??? NO. You said there was no apparent reason (didn’t bother to ask), but you had no problem assuming a woman who sees a hundreds of beautiful women a year, is specifically jealous of YOU. How arrogant. Something you wouldn’t dream of doing to a non-black woman…even if a bald white woman took a razor to your head! It would be a “mistake” or “ignorance”. The idea that waist length hair could be perceived as a burden to a hair dresser-giving her insensitive to try to cut it- never crossed your mind. Most women don’t wear their hair that long for this very reason. Nope. Must be the jealous full blackies. My eyes are rolling so hard it hurts.

      The same reason why you and Tiffany think Black women are jealous is the same reason you think I’m “hostile”. God forbid one of us doesn’t share your perspective or opinion. God forbid that we see through the quiet arrogance. God forbid I point out the biracials who hide their passive aggressiveness behind fakeness, like you and Tiffany. And yes, this is sad. It’s sad that within one generation, so many black people have produced children with so little faith in the characters of Black women (even ones that come from tragic Black women, like Tiffany).

      Comment by tragicmulattos — May 9, 2011 @ 4:39 am | Reply

      • >Your reasons for your opinion are your own. But the fact that “some Black women are jealous of girls with long hair and light skin” is no less true than the fact that some biracial women have superiority complexes around black women (that they would NEVER show towards a white woman), and assume any act that isn’t explicit adoration and kindness is jealousy.

        What does the fact that many biracial women are jealous of Whites have to do with the glaring truism that Black women are despicably jealous of both biracials and Whites, and covet their features to the point of absurdity? You excuse the self-hating behavior of Blacks by shifting the blame onto biracials. Don’t pretend that biracials and Blacks are equivalent. If biracials desire the features of the White race they are asking for MORE of what they already have. You may think you’re clever but it’s obvious you presume White characteristics to be above biracials. I suppose in your imagination biracials always look like a mud pie mixture of not-at-all White features right? As you well understand, there’s little difference in a biracial woman assuming the countenance of a White, than a brunette White woman dying her hair blonde, a straight haired women curling her hair, or a brown eyes girl wearing blue contacts. However, if a Black woman desires the features of the WHITE race then she is asking for what she DOESN’T have in the first place (except by the grace of White genes).

        >Too many black people have allowed this stupidity to go unchecked. Too many black people have allowed a certain type of biracial woman-no matter how unattractive, or fat, or dumb, or unduly stuck up or whatever-to believe that you are far more extraordinary than you are.

        Hardly. Black people actively encourage this mentality while speaking out of the side of their mouth against it, because they desperately crave White genes. It’s not something that simply “got out of control” and you only have yourselves to blame for the situation.

        > YOU also give an example of the superiority complex rhetoric given Tiffany’s story in your own story…your pseudo-white reasoning forces you to find malice in every act by Black women, so it MUST be jealousy. It’s a very subtle sort of contempt that forces you to feel threatened or nasty towards them if they display behavior or attitudes that don’t give you the impression that they admire you.

        You use the term “superiority-complex” as code for “think your superior but really you’re just a nigger”. Tell me, do Whites have a superiority complex? Who are you fooling? You know damn well that biracials are superior to Blacks and the EQUALS of Whites but you’re loath to admit it, just like every other dishonest negro on the planet. Now perhaps it’s genetic or perhaps not, I’ll leave that to you to decide, but it’s an indisputable reality that you can’t stuff under the bed with your arrogant posturing. Yes Black women, MOST Black women, feel insecure and jealous towards Biracials because they see them as their biological and social superiors. And yes many (if not most) Biracial females hold disparaging and supremacist attitudes towards Black women. What the hell do you care what 2% of the country does? Don’t deal with them. And, if you don’t like the White beauty standard go back to Africa.

        > The same reason why you and Tiffany think Black women are jealous is the same reason you think I’m “hostile”. God forbid one of us doesn’t share your perspective or opinion. God forbid that we see through the quiet arrogance. God forbid I point out the biracials who hide their passive aggressiveness behind fakeness, like you and Tiffany. And yes, this is sad. It’s sad that within one generation, so many black people have produced children with so little faith in the characters of Black women (even ones that come from tragic Black women, like Tiffany).

        It’s funny how you accuse biracials of being “arrogant” but not Whites. This is a typical White supremacist ploy and I always find it fascinating and amusing when Blacks utilize those same rhetorical devices while posturing as “anti-racists”. Apparently YOU think biracials are polluted with nigger genes but you’ll never say this directly because it implies that you are a nigger yourself. I’ll ask you again, what do you care as a Black woman what a tiny minority of the country does? Do you give two shits about the ravings of the Alabama chapter of the Ku Klux Klan? No, because they don’t pose any threat to your self-esteem and honor. Biracials do pose such a threat because (a) stupid negroes honor them with prestige that you feel is undeserved, and (b) Black women both worship them and seethe with jealousy for their beauty, thereby calling attention to their superior physical features and the ugliness of Black females. This infuriates you because you crave a standard of Black beauty that idealizes negroid traits rather than White. That’s fair enough but you’re blaming the wrong people, which is funny coming from you since you constantly accuse mixed people of scapegoating Blacks. The problem is with the insecurity of Black women and you need to take responsibility for yourselves rather than blaming others. Then again, this behavior is typical of the Black race so maybe it’s too much to ask. Either learn to live with the White ideal or go find a new place to live, but stop blaming mixed people with whom you CHOOSE to associate, for holding the same beliefs everyone else does, including your own race. And as for those supremacist mixed women you don’t know, stop worrying about them since they aren’t your concern.

        Comment by youknowho — May 10, 2011 @ 11:33 am

      • There is so much tragic in this post I have to spell out shaking my head, lol. Where on earth do I begin?

        What does the fact that many biracial women are jealous of Whites have to do with the glaring truism that Black women are despicably jealous of both biracials and Whites, and covet their features to the point of absurdity?

        The point of absurdity? At what point does submission to white supremacy become absurd? When that sad mulatto on Tyra claimed she was a white supremacist an wanted to join the klan? When the tragic half-breed Leo Feldman actually went BEYOND what most modern Klansmen would do and blew up Jewish and Black landmarks? After all, it was that very absurdity (white supremacy) that caused confused/stupid negroes to debase themselves and eventually create self-hating tragedies like you. Yes, you should be THANKFUL for the worst of our kind. Without them you, at the very least wouldn’t exist.
        So, the fact that some black women are “jealous” of biracials comes from the same tragedy that makes you quibble at the knees in the prescense of any average white woman. And the only thing mulatresses like you hate MORE are black women who don’t believe the hype. Nevertheless, I pointed out a glaring truth about Tiffany and even some other biracials have noticed it as well (link posted on this blog). I don’t totally blame her, her (black) mother sounds like a head case. She is the unfortunate result of that.

        You excuse the self-hating behavior of Blacks by shifting the blame onto biracials. Don’t pretend that biracials and Blacks are equivalent. If biracials desire the features of the White race they are asking for MORE of what they already have.

        Really? I thought YOU implied, in this very response, that not all biracials look alike. So I can safely say the MAJORITY of ya’ll don’t look like Charlize Theron, lmao. You want to pretend the anomalies that do, the ones who are really predominantly white, are common. Most of ya’ll look like Barack, Mel B, Vanessa Williams, Leona Lewis, or someone with OBVIOUS MIXED ANCESTRY. How can you ask for more of what you already have? If you already have it, why would you NEED to look for it? See how stupid that sounds? Iconic Halle was Halle with a relaxer and a very obvious nose job, lol. If she already had it, why did she need it? Your proximity to whiteness actually ends up creating an even more desperate complex than someone who knows they can’t attain it will have. That’s why it’s TRAGIC. Close-no cigar. Mariah is grown and still shell shocked by it. And you’re mad about that fact. So you take it out on us. I see it through it.

        As you well understand, there’s little difference in a biracial woman assuming the countenance of a White

        I actually feel bad for you because I can sense how badly you want this to be true, lmao. Take a look at your mulatto forums and see how much debate goes on between those who look nearly white and those who look nearly black. The average biracial woman who dyes her hair red would look like…KEISHA COLE or sideshow Bob, not Nicole Kidman. The average biracial who dyes her hair blonde will look like BEYONCE, not Gwenyth Paltrow. And no person with eyesight will be able to miss the OBVIOUS DIFFERENCE. The few who are indistinguishable from white women, usually live as white women. And they’re rarely obsessed with the emotional “jealous black women” blanket. It’s DELUSIONAL mutts like you that spew hatred at Blacks but are docile towards Whites. Meanwhile you never ask why, if they can so easily assume “the countenance of whites” haven’t most of ya’ll done it?

        Hardly. Black people actively encourage this mentality while speaking out of the side of their mouth against it, because they desperately crave White genes. It’s not something that simply “got out of control” and you only have yourselves to blame for the situation.

        I’ve stated this much on my blog before. Read the archives and read the post you’re commenting in. As I said IN THIS POST, it is the BLACK community who allowed this to happen. Although you believe you are blessed with the “grace” (lord, I feel so sorry for you) with white genes, the white community CLEARLY doesn’t feel all that graced by our presence. But that doesn’t bother ya’ll. When Blacks stop feeding the MULE-atto, the ego will starve.

        You use the term “superiority-complex” as code for “think your superior but really you’re just a nigger”.

        I don’t think this. YOU do. Do all mulattos think they’re mind readers? LMAO, what is REALLY going on….Besides, YOU used the phrase
        “grace of white genes”. Doesn’t get much more niggerish in my eyes. That’s some old school, on the plantation, deliver me from blackness type shit out of YOUR MOUTH. I can’t even….

        Tell me, do Whites have a superiority complex?

        Yes. Many do.

        Who are you fooling? You know damn well that biracials are superior to Blacks and the EQUALS footstools of Whites but you’re loath to admit it, just like every other dishonest negro on the planet.

        And here it is. This is why I do what I do. This is why I will keep this blog up until the message becomes common and uncontroversial. I’m actually impressed it took you this long to confess your white supremacist nature. After all, if SAVAGE AND CONFUSED MUTTS like you think you are better than blacks, as I rightly hypothesized, then it must be your white genes that made you so…correct? Therefore, in your eyes, full whites must be better than YOU too. And you can pretend you don’t feel that way, but it takes a sho’ ’nuff HOUSE NIGGER to talk about “white grace” in 2011. Pitiful mutt. Pitiful.

        ow perhaps it’s genetic or perhaps not, I’ll leave that to you to decide, but it’s an indisputable reality that you can’t stuff under the bed with your arrogant posturing. Yes Black women, MOST Black women, feel insecure and jealous towards Biracials because they see them as their biological and social superiors.

        The only people I heard talking about genetic superiority are skinheads/nazis and tragic mulattos. Social advantages, black women recognize mutt women have it-or used to, lol. I CANNOT deny this and keep this blog. However, around my way, the mutts that thugs chase are single and pushing strollers like any other black woman. And the ones playing second fiddle to white women you claim they blend with, aren’t that much more satisfied with life.

        And yes many (if not most) Biracial females hold disparaging and supremacist attitudes towards Black women.

        At least you’re more honest than the other chicks. Now if Tiffany will admit it, it will put her entire story in context.

        What the hell do you care what 2% of the country does? Don’t deal with them. And, if you don’t like the White beauty standard go back to Africa.

        Unfortunately in America, you can’t NOT deal with them. “Them” don’t have a community, region, culture that is independent of any other group. And the “go back to Africa” stuff is so played, LMAO. Since most of ya’ll also don’t like white beauty standards (but are too weak to say it), you can go back to….oh that’s right…..NOWHERE. You’re probably the pathetic spawn of some weeded out hypocritical rastafarian loser and some morbidly obese toothless chav. You’re in England, right? So I can safely assume you were raised in a foster home or by some Catholic charity? Genetic superiority my ass, lol.

        It’s funny how you accuse biracials of being “arrogant” but not Whites.

        We talk about whites enough. I want to focus on the ignored problem.

        This is a typical White supremacist ploy and I always find it fascinating and amusing when Blacks utilize those same rhetorical devices while posturing as “anti-racists”. Apparently YOU think biracials are polluted with nigger genes but you’ll never say this directly because it implies that you are a nigger yourself.

        Oh please. There is no pretense here. This blog ain’t racialicious. I’m not here to stroke the egos of whites or mutts like you. You want a blog about whites, START ONE. But NONE of you will. You just wait for blacks to talk about it then hop on the bandwagon when whites don’t feel like playing color-blind with ya’ll. White supremacist rhetorical devices???? You said “go back to Africa”. You believe in genetic superiority. YOU believe in the “grace of white genes”. LMAO. You’ve made a strong case in my favor in THIS your own response. Don’t get all sensitive and anti-white to shift the focus. Fence-sitters like you do NOT belong on my lawn.

        I’ll ask you again, what do you care as a Black woman what a tiny minority of the country does?
        I’ll say it again, because that tiny minority is NOT an independent group, with an independent culture, and never will be. Until there are enough mulattos to mix/mate with each other and create a large, sustainable, and distinct mulatto group, (this will never happen because you guys hate yourselves so much you avoid each other) you will always be in everyone’s discourse.

        Do you give two shits about the ravings of the Alabama chapter of the Ku Klux Klan? No, because they don’t pose any threat to your self-esteem and honor.
        I can tell you aren’t from America, since you clearly only know about race from some old ass movie or history book. Nobody is worried about Alabama. And you’re right. The Klan are racist that live far away from me. I’m worried about the MULATTO RACIST NEXT DOOR. If mulatresses didn’t exist, black women would still be dealing with white supremacy. But that is an OBVIOUS battle. I believe in taking out the demons in your range, even if they look somewhat like you. As for honor? Mulattos aren’t really given honor. A consolation prize, maybe. Honor, nope.

        Biracials do pose such a threat because (a) stupid negroes honor them with prestige that you feel is undeserved,

        This is true. Like one of your parents, and TIffany’s mom.

        and (b) Black women both worship them and seethe with jealousy for their beauty, thereby calling attention to their superior physical features and the ugliness of Black females.

        This is untrue. Most black women are ambivalent about mulattos, and far more tolerant of their flip-floppyness than they should be. And you know this. Any time we hint at this ambivalence your nazi genes kick in and attempt to suppress it. Yet, for some reason, MOST of ya’ll stick around us-why? But more of us are catching on, believe me. As long as degenerate mutts like you think black women are ugly mulatresses (while not being too ugly to marry and mate with whites and make idiots like Tiffany), YOU will also struggle with their sub-whiteness. That’s why I laugh at mulatto militants with Black hate. As long as your identity is tied to BOTH groups, you will be talking about YOURSELF.

        This infuriates you because you crave a standard of Black beauty that idealizes negroid traits rather than White.
        Meh…I’m comfortable with true diversity. Unlike you, I don’t need any type of supremacy or “best of both worlds” rhetoric to feel good about myself. I’m sure your chavvy mom helped you along with that one.

        The problem is with the insecurity of Black women and you need to take responsibility for yourselves rather than blaming others. Then again, this behavior is typical of the Black race so maybe it’s too much to ask.

        Keep proving me right. Lemme guess…Papa was a rolling stone. This is some sort of misdirected anger response. LOL. I’m exposing mulattos for what they are, and the readers of this (and similar) blogs are catching on QUICKLY.

        Either learn to live with the White ideal or go find a new place to live,

        If black people took this approach to racism, your confused ass wouldn’t exist. It’s nice to see that you’ve confirmed my theory about mulatto complacency towards and approval of white ideals and white supremacy. KEEP PROVING ME RIGHT. Without us THERE IS NOT YOU. Hurts, doesn’t it? You must cut yourself a little every morning at the thought of it.

        Whom you CHOOSE to associate, for holding the same beliefs everyone else does, including your own race.

        We talk about ourselves and our problems enough. There are whole journals and blogs dedicated to it. This blog is for yours truly =). Don’t like it? Don’t visit this blog.

        And as for those supremacist mixed women you don’t know, stop worrying about them since they aren’t your concern.

        They are my concern, dummy. That’s what this blog is about. They’re in my community and in my environment. It’s not like I can tell YOU to go back to a particular country or continent =). You’re the result of low self esteem. I guess in some tragic paradox, you NEED black people to hate themselves. THAT’s why you hate this blog. The thought of that makes me CHUCKLE.

        Comment by tragicmulattos — May 10, 2011 @ 10:57 pm

  6. […] Recently a commenter chided me for being “hostile” towards Biracial Tiffany and her “jealous blacks” story because, the commenter said, “Black women ARE jealous. It’s just a fact”. You can see her comment and my response here. […]

    Pingback by Don’t Play the Game With Biracial Women « Tragicmulattoes's Blog — May 9, 2011 @ 4:41 pm | Reply

  7. Dear Zachary, Mulatto Kid/Prince, and all your other tragic aliases,

    I’m not going to engage in a back n’ forth with you. That’s not what this blog is about. Stop sending me the same pointless links I dissected last year, and please reconsider your medication.

    Good day.

    Comment by youknowho — May 11, 2011 @ 9:53 am | Reply

  8. “Biracial women in White female groups often resign themselves to “supporting actress” roles, even if they are attractive enough to be the center of attention. They don’t conceptualize themselves as threats to the social value of White women (certainly not in the eyes of White men), so any tension that arises between a biracial woman and a White woman is likely interpreted as an individual act of meanness rather than some racially loaded act of biracial envy.”

    *Sigh* Really?

    This cannot be said about all or even most Biracial women. I’m “biracial’ and I’ll recognize and even call out a racist and/or envious white woman in a minute. I’ve experienced certain white woman who have either been envious, catty, resentful, or flat-out bigots. I’ve known about this kind of behavior for years. It is noooooo surprise. I think a lot of women of mixedrace have more intelligence about this thing than you give them credit for. I don’t believe in the delusional nonsense some peddle about Black women and Black folks in general being the “perpetual villains” towards lighter skinned Blacks and mixedrace folks. I’ve gotten into numerous online debates with people who have had the audacity to depict all Black people in that manner because when people attack Black folks, they attack ME and my entire Black family.

    Like all human beings, Whites and Blacks are just as capable of pettiness, jealousy, and prejudices. All human beings of EVERY race, religion, and culture are–just as we are all capable of kindness, good-will, and cooperation.

    “The blogger has mentioned that her mother (who is Black) discouraged her from trusting Black women with he hair, and this may very well be an example of how the minority parents of biracial identified children often impart their racial insecurities on their children, and these insecurities become a part of their racial identity (as with all racial identities). I will discuss this in more detail later. It pokes a critical whole in the “best of both worlds” argument, or the argument that Biracialism is a fundamental representation of racial progressiveness. Racial progress encourages you to stereotype the very group to which your mother belongs…and your mother encourages this as well???”

    That kind of thing can happen (*some* Black women becoming envious) but then again, I’ve encountered catty white girls who have rolled their eyes at me when I’ve stepped out of the house, looking better than THEM. Minority parents also need to make their children of mixed-race aware that when it comes to issues such as hair and appearance, there will also be *certain* mean-spirited white people who will try to make them feel bad some because of envy, others because of plain racism. Again, that kind of thing happened with me as well. I’ve had a white woman try to make me feel bad because of the natural coarse/curly texture of my hair, another stare at it in an elevator, acting like a little racist creep. Trust me, we are NOT stupid! Many mixed-race women will be the first to tell you about the prejudice they’ve encountered from some White women.

    “I guess what I’m asking is…is it really their inferiority complex or your superiority complex??? I think someone who has been raised to be distrustful/wary of a certain group will likely interpret anything they do with that predisposed expectation.”

    Well, I know I was always raised with neither an inferiority or superiority complex–tied in to my Christian upbringing and the influence of my mother & her family, I’ve always thought that I was no better and no worse than anyone else.

    We are ALL equal and ALL part of the same human family. God created all of us in His image so who am I or anyone else on his planet to say otherwise?

    Comment by Victoria Grace — July 10, 2011 @ 1:26 am | Reply

  9. I’m mixed race & think it’s interesting some mixed girls say black women are jealous of them as i have never got that vibe from black women, they have generally been accepting & welcoming towards me. But I have grown up around more white people & have had more white women act envious or not so friendly towards me, for example i had one call me stuck up without speaking a word to me, i just walked past her & didn’t know her, if a woman calls another woman they don’t know stuck up they are normally jealous. Also I agree about the playing second fiddle to a white friend thing, white girls will often befriend a black/mixed race woman, but if they are attractive they want to prove they can still get more attention from men than the black/mixed girl & can like to control them, this reminds of cami on laguna beach, i prefer to have a mix of friends, my best friend is actually asian. If all my friends were white girls I would feel too much like a token & know i would likely be playing second fiddle to the blonde popular girl.

    Comment by Jennifer — October 29, 2012 @ 1:05 am | Reply

  10. Mixed race people seem to sometimes pander towards white people & pretend that no white people have ever been mean to them but are quick to say other darker skinned black people act mean & jealous towards them, they should stop with the generalising black, white & any other race of people can be mean. Black people have always been more kind & accepting of mixed race people but for some reason some mixed people act like darker skinned blacks are the enemy. I’m mixed & can’t help but roll my eyes at these mixed people

    Comment by Jennifer — October 29, 2012 @ 1:14 am | Reply

  11. You know someone is a tragic mulatto if even a white person notices it. This comment was left on tiffany’s you tube by a white racist girl:

    ‘Your video confirms what other mixed women have said on you tube- always the black women that were racist to them growing up. What can i say you identify as biracial online so ‘whites’ will be less likely to avoid you. And we do avoid you’.

    Even this ranting racist white person is noticing that tiffany & other similar mixed women are pandering more towards white people.

    Comment by Jennifer — October 29, 2012 @ 2:07 am | Reply

  12. God loves all of us and wants all of us to love each other! Mulattos and multiethnic people are not tragic, superior or inferior. We’re all equal in God’s eyes, even if some don’t treat us that way. If you’re Christian love, pray and forgive. I’m a happy content mulatto but above all I’m a Child of God. Salvation and righteousness matter most! God and Jesus complete me! God Bless everyone.

    Comment by Neene — January 18, 2013 @ 12:26 am | Reply

    • ‘Mulattos and multiethnic people are not tragic, superior or inferior. We’re all equal in God’s eyes’ Can I get an ‘Amen’? you are the truth Neene

      Comment by ImBack — October 12, 2013 @ 3:33 pm | Reply

  13. I’m biracial and have honestly had no problems attracting men of all “races”. Also, I have posed a threat to plenty of white women but that never stopped me from acting however I’d like 🙂 First off, who cares what their race association is, and secondly, I AM part-white so there’s no need to feel intimidated. … As for Tiffany, she’s a little silly. I’m proud to be BOTH black and white. We’re all equal.

    Comment by Teri — April 12, 2013 @ 9:01 am | Reply

  14. I agree with Teri. Men in general are attracted to racially ambiguous looking women (assuming they aren’t fugly). Plenty of women, including white women, find them to be threatening. I’ve observed this happening all my life. I’ve had white women admit this to my face, so yeah, it’s true. It’s the power of “the exotic other”. That said, biracial, monoracial, whatever ethnic group … no one ethnic group (or their hair) is any more cute than anyone else’s. Tiffany is a complete twit who needs to mature and stop being so self-centered.

    Comment by The Edge — August 13, 2013 @ 11:54 pm | Reply

  15. Blahh.. I’m biracial. I don’t think black women are more jealous than any other race. The truth of the matter is, women in the US are plagued with self esteem issues that manifest into jealously. If you’re not jealous of someone because if their hair or skin, you’re jealous because of their car or career. It seems no one is satisfied with what they have…

    Comment by Mala — March 11, 2014 @ 5:04 am | Reply

  16. I honestly think it depends on WHO the people in the given situation are. I am biracial and have had black girls be openy JELOUS of my hair, but I don’t think there was ever an inferiority complex, furthermore, I don’t think I myself have ever had a superiority complex toward black girls.

    Comment by Lola — December 14, 2014 @ 6:00 pm | Reply


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